a few days ago i did a posting on a 16 year old grrrl who was (allegedly) raped

(i'm not going to go on and on. i just wanted to speak my mind a bit. i was very upset and this is catharsis for me.)

the judge in the case was going to FORCE her to watch a videotape of the act OR find her in contempt of court. one of the young men on trial was found NOT GUILTY on friday. i have no more to say on that verdict. i didn't hear all of the evidence, i cannot say. i CAN say a few things about rape and about the comments left by 'anonymous' on my first posting

to 'anonymous' i say; i have watched enough judge judy in my time to know you cannot hold a minor to a contract. you have stated the sixteen year old girl who was (allegedly) raped CONSENTED to be videotaped during the 'sex'. lets say that were true, that to me would constitute a contract between the SIXTEEN YEAR OLD GIRL AND THE SEVERAL BOYS who (allegedly) raped her (i believe two were found not guilty, one was found guilty of child pornography since he filmed the incident and one has LEFT THE COUNTRY. the man who is 20 now that was just found not guilty ALSO initially left the country). not only should the video tape be null and void, it should BE DESTROYED forever. she was a MINOR and a DRUNKEN MINOR to boot. the man who was just found not guilty in this case, even admitted on the stand, the grrrl was so drunk she started PASSING OUT. yet, he was found not guilty. i've not seen the videotape. i don't want to see the videotape. to be fair (and yes i CAN be fair) i cannot say what i would have voted if i was on that jury (although i would NEVER have passed voir dire).

on rape:

rape has very little if anything to do with sex. if you think it does, you are very mistaken. it's a crime of violence and violation, power, abuse, force, assault. i remember reading a while ago, about a man who was actually castrated (i forgot if it was by his own hand or not but believe it was) who CONTINUED to rape his young granddaughter. he didn't need a penis at all. it was all in his BRAIN NOT HIS DICK. most but not all people who rape are men. that's a fact. most but not all people who are raped are women. that's a fact. i believe most rapes go unreported. we can never know that, we can never know exact figures. those that DO report them are treated like sluts and are the ones put on trial. it is better than it once was, but far from perfect. is it because women dress 'too sexy' or were 'asking for it'? was that 91 year old who was raped in connecticut (and the perpetrator was JUST convicted i will add) dressed too provocatively? was she asking for it because she was a tease?

from the rape abuse and incest national network
Rapes Still Not Being Reported The National Crime Victimization Survey includes statistics on reported and unreported crimes in America. Sexual assault is one of the most underreported crimes, with more than half still being left unreported. Utilizing services such as The National Sexual Assault Hotline can help encourage victims to get help and report what has happened to them so that more perpetrators can be brought to justice.
Young females are four times more likely than any other group to be the victims of sexual assault, and the least likely to report their victimization.

silent victims

One of the most startling aspects of sex crimes is how many go unreported. The most common reasons given by women for not reporting these crimes are the belief that it is a private or personal matter and the fear of reprisal from the assailant.
Approximately 28% of victims are raped by husbands or boyfriends, 35% by acquaintances, and 5% by other relatives. (Violence against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994)
The FBI estimates that only 37% of all rapes are reported to the police. U.S. Justice Department statistics are even lower, with only 26% of all rapes or attempted rapes being reported to law enforcement officials.
In 1994-1995, only 251,560 rapes and sexual assaults were reported to law enforcement officials -- less than one in every three. (National Crime Victimization Survey, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 1996.)
An overwhelming majority of rape service agencies believe that public education about rape, and expanded counseling and advocacy services for rape victims, would be effective in increasing the willingness of victims to report rapes to the police. (Rape in America, 1992, National Victim Center with Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center.)

from cease


In the United States, 1.3 women are raped every minute. That results in 78 rapes each hour, 1872 rapes each day, 56160 rapes ech month and 683,280 rapes each year.
1 out of every 3 American women will be sexually assulted in her lifetime.
The United States has the world's highest rape rate of the countries that publish such statistics. It's 4 times higher than Germany, 13 times higher than England, and 20 times higher than Japan.
1 in 7 women will be raped by her husband.
83% of rape cases are ages 24 or under.
1 in 4 college women have either been raped or suffered attempted rape.
1 in 12 males students surveyed had commited acts that met the legal definition of rape. Furthermore, 84% of the men who had commited such acts said what they had done was definitely not rape.
75% of male students and 55% of female students involved in acquintance rape had been drinking or using drugs.
Only 16% of rapes are ever reported to the police.


some of these statistics don't match exactly BUT they are indeed close.

remember this-you are a victim WHEN it happens. you are a SURVIVOR AFTER.

men can stop rape
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