the headline of this article was offputting

until i actually read the article itself. of COURSE it makes sense.

men are studs if they fuck. women are sluts (even if they just flirt)

If Women Do Have Lower Libidos, It Would Make Sense
By Amanda Marcotte, RH Reality Check.
Another Valentine's Day, another round of features on sex and love, and another bout of studiously ignoring the role sexism might play in diminishing women's sexual desire. Consumer Reports published a sex poll, and once again women's on-average lower sexual desire is treated as an unfortunate but largely inexplicable phenomenon. In this, they stuck to the mainstream media trend of talking about women's desire -- the lack of it, really -- without addressing any social causes for why that might occur. Most media outlets treat women's desire as a free-standing, unchangeable misfortune brought on by fate or biology, but certainly not worth exploring in depth.

Journalists refuse to explore polling data demonstrating a reported gap in men and women's sexual desires for the same reason people refuse to really tackle the issue in their own relationships. Even in the polling data citing the top six reasons people don't feel desire, two of the reasons given, constituting 59% of respondents, were just a restatement of the problem, and not really a reason. (Forty percent of respondents said they just weren't in the mood, and 19% were too busy watching TV, which is a polite way of saying they aren't in the mood, since people in the mood use Tivo.) But really addressing the reason men and women feel this gap in desire means asking hard questions about how our society treats men and women differently, and doing that means signing up for defensive responses. No wonder journalists writing pieces on the issue avoid the question strenuously. .........

i don't think it's a real dysfunction at all

it's dysfunctional only in that women DO NOT tell their partners what feels good. what makes them happy. what arouses them. what they DON'T like. i think it's because women think it's 'unladylike' to say, HEY, DO THIS or HEY, I'M GETTING ON TOP. my sistahs, we rule. we KNOW what we want. either ASK for it OR TAKE IT. i learned that long ago and i'm passing it on to you. it really DOES make a difference. if your partner is threatened by that, well you shouldn't be with them to begin with

oh and please note who funded the 'study'. DRUG MAKERS FOR WOMEN'S SEXUAL 'DYSFUNCTION'. dysfunction smysfunction - MY BIG FAT ASS.

sistahs - you know what you want - GET IT

Almost Half of Women Have Sexual Problems

By Amanda Gardner

HealthDay Reporter

FRIDAY, Oct. 31 (HealthDay News) -- In a double whammy for the female gender, new research shows that 40 percent of women report sexual problems, but only 12 percent are distressed about it.

"The good news is that 12 percent is a very different number than 40 percent," said study author Dr. Jan Shifren, an associate professor of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive biology at Harvard Medical School and director of the Vincent Menopause Program at Massachusetts General Hospital, both in Boston.

But 12 percent of 83 million U.S. women aged 20 to 65 is nothing to scoff at, noted a related editorial in the November issue of Obstetrics & Gynecology. The research was funded by Boehringer Ingelheim International, maker of flibanserin, a drug for female sexual dysfunction that is currently being tested in clinical trials.........